This is a question that all parents and loved ones of a drug addicts want to know. When your loved one has started the path of 12 step recovery, you will begin notice little changes in their lives. Now, we are not talking about changes that just have to do with appearance, health, or even that he/she has a job, but real changes in them as a person. One of the main problems the addict suffers from is their selfishness and dishonesty. If your loved one is in recovery, obtaining work, going to meetings, meeting his/her sponsor and it doesn’t sound like a chore to them, this is a good sign that they are actually taking recovery genuinely serious. Another good sign is if they are including you in decisions that he/she needs to make in recovery. For instances, should I take this job, should I leave the sober house, what do you think I should do? You should see a genuine attempt on their behalf to make decisions the family is comfortable with. This at least shows that their selfishness is diminishing and they are consciously aware of how their decisions will affect others. When your loved one is living honestly, is no longer depending upon you and is taking responsibility for their own actions, you can feel assured that your loved one is on the right path.