This can sometimes be difficult to answer due to the dishonest nature of addiction. Often times, even in sobriety, addicts and alcoholics can appear to be doing well on the outside, but have not yet grown on the inside. They may say a lot of the right things to make you believe that they are ready because they are eager to move on. Just because their physical health has improved, they have a job, a girlfriend/boyfriend, a little money in their pocket, etc., does not necessarily mean they are ready to move beyond sober living. A more important gauge of how their doing would be to look at their behaviors and how they are treating other people. Are they honest? Do they seem engaged with family and friends? Do they have a solid recovery network? Have they become more independent financially, emotionally, or with their responsibilities? Or are they still relying on you to make ends meet or demanding your attention? An addict who is genuinely living a 12 step recovery program should be more conscious of other people’s needs and no longer require your help on a regular basis, financially or otherwise. It is also important to determine what their motive is for moving out and whether or not they have a well-thought out plan. Are they moving out based on resentment, bad behavior, or to escape something or somebody? Is the move spontaneous or have they responsibly made a plan that makes sense? You may find it helpful to discuss your loved one’s progress with a house manager or sponsor.