There are a plethora of “sober” houses through out the New England area, but unfortunately not all of them live up to the standards you should be looking for. The first thing is to make sure that the person who is running or owns the sober house is actually in recovery themselves. This is important because you can be assured that the person running the house is going to encourage and guide the residents in their own recovery. You will want to inquire about the rules of the house and know that the standards of the house are in line. For example, if a house has a rule to progress in the 12 steps, what will they be doing to hold the resident accountable to this? The worst thing you could do is to send your loved one to a sober house where he/she can just sleep in and watch TV all day. You’ll want to get a good idea of who else is living in the house as it is beneficial to choose a sober living house that has a standard of who they take. This means they are not just taking anyone off of the streets or right out of a detox. A good sober house will only accept people who have already completed some type of long term, in-patient treatment, usually of a minimum of 30 days. This will ensure that the other residents at the house have already been clean for a period of time and are pursuing recovery. If you come across a sober house that has constant turn around, people in and out every week, the best thing to do is follow your gut.