Addiction is a family disease and even the best of families can find themselves completely submerged in their loved ones addiction. This is often most apparent in the family’s desperate desire to control their loved one’s behaviors, emotions, and recovery. Families are known to become obsessed over their loved one causing them to enable, spy and live in constant fear, often neglecting other family members or their own life responsibilities. Although most family members may never stop worrying, it is possible to separate yourself from the addict and love the addict from a distance. Family members who are well will come to realize that they have little control over their loved one’s addiction and will begin to stop engaging in paranoid, enabling behavior. They will be able to set better and healthier boundaries both for themselves and their loved one.